Tuesday, September 29, 2020

First Three Decades of Men

****<====Early Life====>****

It was the year 1985 when MAA decided to pursue her career as an independent women after four years of my birth. We moved from PRATAPIPUR (Father's Home) to PANDELLA (Granny's Home). She employed as an ANM (Auxiliary Nurse Midwife) with State Government, Uttar Pradesh in 1987 and after completing two years of training in 1989, she got posted in KADIPUR KHURD (a village in Sultanpur district, Uttar Pradesh) and this was the year when my younger brother Prabhat was born. That was the tenure when education and job of GIRL or WOMEN used to be very rare to happen, there were handful of families whose conviction allowed them to cross the boundaries of traditional thought processes that WOMEN are meant to manage households only. With the determination of establishing a balanced equilibrium, between personal (2 sons and husband) and professional lives, she began towards a new phase of life. We settled in PANDELLA (a village in Sultanpur District, Uttar Pradesh) and she continued to carry-out her duty for her allocated area which was appx 10 KM. Somebody has rightly said that "WHEN ONE DOOR OF HAPPINESS CLOSES, ANOTHER OPENS, BUT OFTEN WE LOOK SO LONG AT THE CLOSED DOOR THAT WE DO NOT SEE THE ONE WHICH HAS BEEN OPENED FOR US".

After we started to reside in PANDELLA, I got surprised to see so many new faces with whom we had to live, they were astonished to see my long curly hair. It was quite a big family (more than 14 members including Babuji-Nana/Ammaji-Nani) staying together, my MAA (Mausi) had four siblings - she is the youngest among them, elder sister (1st number, Mummy) with 2 sons (Guddu and Pankaj Bhaiya, Guddu Bhaiya is elder and Pankaj Bhaiya is the youngest and one daughter Gudia Didi - 2nd number child), elder brother (2nd number, Mamaji/Mamiji) - 4 sons (Gunjan Bhaiya - 1st, Gaggan - 2nd, Sajjan - 3rd and Deepak - 4th number child), elder sister (3rd number, Badi Mausi) - only daughter Beena. I want to pay my tribute to the real HEROS (Babuji and Ammaji) whose blessings are the essence of our happiness and success🙏. The soul departed from us after settling all of dependent grand children's.

My father stays with his parents and his younger brother's family (Uncle). He has 2 younger, one elder brothers and one elder sister (Buaji), all married. His youngest brother (Uncle) and elder brother (Tauji) were employed in Defense and younger brother (Uncle) does farming. We prolonged to go to my grand father's home frequently to live with them whenever time permitted. I could recall the instances when MAA used to pack our clothes in DOLCHI and then BOATED to cross SARYU river to reach PRATAPIPUR (a village in Ambedkar Nagar district, Uttar Pradesh). 

In beginning, there were no ample facilities of transportation, but later on we mostly traveled with GANESH and UPSRTC BUS. Though, the distance between PANDELLA and PRATAPIPUR is appx 40 KMs, but due to changing of vehicles with waiting periods it used to take close to 5 hours. Most of the times, we went by foot from MIJHAURA (a Post Office in Ambedkar Nagar district) to grand father's home which was appx. 3 KMs. Perhaps, that is why it is often said that "STAY STRONG, MAKE THEM WONDER HOW YOU’RE STILL SMILING".

In PRATAPIPUR, people were strictly following the proverb "EARLY TO BED AND EARLY TO RISE". No electricity, use of kerosene oil lantern, no LPG gas but using soil stove to cook food, taking dinner by 7 PM, waking up at 4 AM, use of bicycles to transit from one place to another, dependent on post office letters as the only source of communication, no HAND PUMPS but WELL was being used as a supply of water and people were solely dependent on natural resources. Probably, that is why it is often said that "HAPPINESS IS WHEN WHAT YOU THINK, WHAT YOU SAY, AND WHAT YOU DO ARE IN HARMONY".

****<====School Days from 5th to 8th====>****

In 1988, I started my studies in a school adjacent to Granny's home at a walkable distance and studied there till 4th standard. Me and Gaggan are having similar age group, so our schedule tighten together to play, eat, work, and study. BHARTI MASTER SAHAB was our first tutor who used to come at home to teach us. JANTRI and VERMA MASTER SAHAB were main teachers who are still in mind because of being their favorite students.

We (Me and Gaggan) were moved to SANT TULSI DAS, JUNIOR HIGH SCHOOL KADIPUR (a school in Sultanpur district, Uttar Pradesh) in 1992 from 5th standard. Exam of 5th class used to be on district level board and we both secured 2nd position. From 6th class, we got bicycles to go to school which was appx 4 KMs from PANDELLA, and before that either we used to go by walk or by taking lift of bicyclists. We made a number of friends and out of them RAJENDRA and ASHISH became our closest friends. ZANZEER was one of the preferred games which we used to play in SCHOOL and tore a number of my shirts and buttons. We studied till 8th standard and consistently retained 1st and 2nd positions in all classes. DINESH MASTER SAHAB for Sanskrit, THAKUR MASTER SAHAB for Geography, SINGH MASTER SAHAB for Science, and RAMDHARI MASTER SAHAB were among those GURUJI's to whom I can recall at this point of time.

Celebration of REPUBLIC DAY and INDEPENDANCE DAY in SCHOOL and giving speech on contents mainly including the background history and contribution of FREEDOM FIGHTERS, some students used to sing PATRIOTIC SONGS, and POEMS. It offered a fair opportunity to everyone to understand the importance of celebration and also to realize the state of life of people living without FREEDOM. I was a bit forgetful while delivering SPEECH in front of AUDIENCES😋. I can recall one of my SONG that was "MERE DESH KI DHARTI" (Pukar Movie), and it was applauded a lot by all guests and students.

When it comes to travel, AYODHYA, BIJETHUA, CHAUKIYA, VINDHYACHAL, and MAIHAR were the main religious places I explored with family. I got a chance to traverse HARIDWAR, RISHIKESH, MASOORI, and DEHRADUN with MAA and Prabhat. At that time, my uncle (PREMNATH Uncle) was employed in DEHRADUN and was staying in Defense campus with family, he arranged all accommodation with him, and from there we went to cherish different places as per plan, this was the best trip of my life at that period. I also went JHAANSI (my Tauji employed there and staying in Defense colony with family) with MAA once when I was a small kid, but not able to recall the sites I explored that time. Hence, "LIVE WITH NO EXCUSES AND TRAVEL WITH NO REGRETS".

One of the most pleasant occasion, I am able to recollect is to celebrate VIJAYDASHMI and DUSSEHRA festival, where we used to get money from earning members of family (Babuji, Mummy, Mamaji, Mausi, and Guddu Bhaiya) to relish the FARE and buying the items of choice.

Buying new dresses and with similar design and color for Me and Gaggan, Gunjan Bhaiya, Sajjan, and Deepak and Prabhat was something very common for siblings.

Attending BAARAAT's of near and dear ones, attempting to reserve corner seat of JEEP/COMMANDER, dusting our SHOES and SANDLES with hanky after getting down, relishing variety of sweets and snacks, being eager to be a part of KHICHADI, and exciting about getting gifts and money at the end, which was the tradition and pattern of marriages.

Somewhere around 1994, we met with a major accident while going to Grandpa's home with UPSRTC BUS, we boarded from KADIPUR, took position at left side of the driver's seat, BUS lost its control, and hit to a big tree along the road nearby DOSTPUR (Post Office in Ambedkar Nagar District). Me and Prabhat didn't have any scratch but MAA wounded badly in head which resulted multiple stiches. We cancelled our trip and returned back to Granny's home that day. It took her years to recover the loss she went through with the incidence. Possibly, "IT IS ALWAYS AN ACCIDENT THAT SAVES US. IT IS SOMEONE WE HAVE NEVER SEEN".

I am able to recollect one instance wherein MAA had to attend one of her regular meetings in old CSC HOSPITAL (Puraani Bazaar, Kadipur) and asked me to take TOFFEE for Prabhat from MAKBOOL's SHOP (one of old grocery shop in Kadipur), I bought the same, but forgot the route to return for the hospital, and after making several attempts to search the right path, I started to cry and then one of the gentleman asked me to stay at his home and helped me to meet with MAA. Later on, when I started to do MATRICULATION, I came to know that, my mathematics teacher and tutor (RAJENDRA SINGH SIR) of 10th grade was that kind person who assisted me to stay at his home until I didn't meet with MAA. Probably, this may be one of the coincidence and somebody has rightly said that "COINCIDENCES HAPPEN FOR A REASON, THAT'S FOR SURE".

Prabhat started his schooling from CITY MONTESSORI SCHOOL (a school KADIPUR post office, Sultanpur District). He used to go with School Rikshaw along with a number of other childrens of his age. One day, while returning from school, he was hit by a private transport commander in 1995 and that was the incidence which badly broken his nose, mouth and left knee. That was a major accident which took him quite a long time to recover and also affected his studies till he graduated.

We used to play a number of outdoor games during our childhood days which involved playing STAPOO, GENTADI, KHOKHO, CRICKET, CHIBHBHI, GILLI DANDA, KANCHAA, SIYADANDI, HIDE & SEEK, VOLLYBALL, KABADDI, SWINGING, KUDEE, WRESTLING, JHAABAR, etc. Those games were being played at our backyard area called as MALLA and PACHHU KI BAGH. Indoor games included, playing CHESS with Babuji during afternoon of summers, PALYING CARDS with Mummy (MAA's elder sister), Jijaji, Gudia Didi, Pankaj Bhaiya, and other siblings, watching CRICKET on TV and listening COMMENTORY of cricket on radio.

Probably, this is how "TIME FLIES". Outdoor games were an important part of everybody's life, which was the main reason of their strong immunity system and good health, and the same got reversed later when INDOOR GAMES and DIGITALIZATION substituted them. 

That was the period when movies used to be watched (usually at our neighbor's home) on VCRs (Videocassette Recorders) using CASSETTES, and songs were being played on TAPE RECORDERS with cassettes by filling songs of choice. Having TELEVISION (WESTERN TV with Shutter) with handful of families and setting their Antenna's direction to make the clarity better, there was no option available to click photos other than STUDIOS, and almost all families used to have RADIOS with them.

Watching RAMAYAN and MAHABHARAT in common hall fully occupied with neighbors', waiting for evening of Saturday and Sunday to watch movies, cheerful morning with RANGOLI, and melodious songs of CHITRAHAR, and celebration of festivals such as HOLI, DIWALI, VASANT PANCHAMI, GUDUI are the spectators of beautiful memories.

Getting snacks (such as Salty and Crunchy biscuits) from Granny every morning to eat with drinking water, eating KALEWA together with all siblings in morning, feeding sugarcane in KOLHU to extract its juice for preparation of JAGGERY, operating CHAFF CUTTER to avail FODDER for pet animals (like cows, buffalo, ox, etc.), doing other outdoor and farming works. One day in 1996, I got slipped and my left hand fell into HOT JAGGERY COOKING PAN. This removed my epidermis layer of skin and made a white scars which disappeared up-to some extent over a period of time but still can be seen if look closely.

****<====Tenure of Inter College from 9th to 12th====>****

After passing out from 8th standard, I joined NATIONAL INTERNAL COLLEGE (a college in KADIPUR post office, Sultanpur district, Uttar Pradesh) and studied there from 9th to 12th.

Till HIGHER SECONDARY, I continued my studies in Hindi Medium state board, Gaggan accompanied me, secured first class overall with MATHEMATICS domain. I got the opportunity to become student of teachers like RAJENDRA SINGH SIR for Mathematics, LG SINGH SIR for Science, CHANDRADEO DUBEY SIR for English, AJAY BAHADUR SINGH SIR for Physics, etc. RAMASHANKAR SINGH SIR was our tutor of MATHEMATICS in 12th standard, because of his excellent tricks only we were able to secure 75%+ marks in subject. Hence, "THE BEST TEACHERS ARE THOSE WHO SHOW YOU WHERE TO LOOK, BUT DON'T TELL YOU WHAT TO SEE". 

We organized our self at 1st floor of home, used to prepare time tables and tried to remain stick with them but schedule of study used to get interrupted in 2-3 weeks, and then again a new time table, but most of the times, we were consistent in our studies year by year which always resulted a good outcome in each classes.

I am able to recall the reason of change of my name from "VIKAS TIWARI" to "VIKASH KUMAR TIWARI" from 10th grade where LG SINGH SIR wanted to have a name which can be written in short form later like "VK TIWARI" to look impressive. Hence, he made the needful changes in registration of 10th standard form accordingly, and from then my name became likewise.

Being in practice of reading syllabus books from start to end multiple times, preparing notes, studying consistently, having little friends, attending limited celebrations, and companionship of Gaggan made us among one of the bright students. I was not in habit of doing studies in exam periods and used to take sound sleeps, and hence I could rarely do revision of subjects which restricted my percentage to ~64% in 10th and 12th.

I could recollect the occurrence, there was a paper of BIOLOGY subject in 10th board and I did not do revision of subject even an hour, we had to leave by 7 AM for our board center which was located at appx 15 KM from home, where we used to go by JEEP for which driver was reserved for the duration of all papers of board exams. I was still sleeping and MAA shouted and told to pour a pot full of water if I would not awake and do the revision, I woke up and studied from 5 AM to 6:30 AM, went through the exam and came to know that questions were the same I read during those one and half hours, this may be the coincidence and perhaps it is often said that "EVERYTHING HAPPENS WITH A REASON", MAA became the savior that day and I secured a fairy good marks.

There was another occasion, I could not study in exams of MATHEMATICS paper in 12th when my Granny's health was not good, but due to having enough practice throughout the year and extraordinary guidance of RAMASHANKAR SINGH GURUJI, I was able to achieve 75% marks. Perhaps, this is the reason parents always suggest to study constantly, as that will always support to handle the hard situations when revisions are not possible to do. 

In tenure of those 4 years, I became a witness of handful of events, college management remained more focused on bookish studies, most of our colleagues were secured good percentage and academically they were outstanding performers, but if this comes to their skills of presentation and English speaking, they looked nervous and seemed to be on backfoot. It may be the matter of time, possibly they could not be as good in communication skills, but over of period of time, most of them are now successful in their lives by mitigating the difference which could have been achieved a bit before if more focus should have been given strategically.

In 1998, I awarded with my first scholarship of Rs 5.1K for securing 1st rank in 11th standard and that too in academics. For people educating in HINDI MEDIUM, communication skill becomes the major road block mainly when they proceed for competitive exams and higher studies where all books, presentations, notes, exams, and discussions remain in English. It take them 1-2 years to become habitual and align themselves accordingly to the pattern, I also faced the similar challenge. Now, the question comes who is responsible and what makes this difficult to happen, one of the main reason I could see the speaking environment of home, schools and colleges, book's language, frequency of organizing events and participation, presentations, and so on. And these are the factors which are inherited to the life style of people living around it, and cannot be mitigated in a day or two but can be improved over a period of years to come considering the fact that ENGLISH is not our NATIVE language. Possibly, this supports the proverb "SPEAKING CAN PERSUADE AN INDIVIDUAL, ELOQUENCE CAN PERSUADE A CROWD".

****<====Preparation of Entrance Exams for Engineering====>****

After passing out from 12th in 1999, Pankaj bhaiya advised us (Me and Gaggan) to start doing preparation from Vandana Coaching Center, Allahabad for entrance exams to take admission in Engineering colleges affiliated to state, CBSE, IIIT, IIT, deemed universities, etc. That time, he was doing MBBS (through CPMT entrance) from HANDIYA (Allahabad). We took a room at rent in KEET GANJ (Allahabad) and started doing our preparation. Initially, we encountered a number of challenges pertaining to cooking, and adjusting in accordance with new phase of life as this was very first time, when we were away from family, he guided us how to make CHAPAATI and cook RICE, DAAL, VEGETABLES, etc. Things got settled over a period of time, and we accommodated ourselves as per regular routine. Listening songs (preferably from MUKESH KUMAR, MOHAMMAD RAFI, KISHORE KUMAR, LATA MANGESHKAR, etc) on VIVIDH BHARTI while cooking food was the only source of entertainment. Result of first year exam was not fruitful and my rank was far behind from getting the good college.

In 2000, we decided to not to do coaching but self-study. 2nd attempt was on improvement side for me but still rank was not satisfactory, though this year was breakthrough for Gaggan as he got admission in PANT NAGAR ENGINEERING COLLEGE, NAINITAL. At this point of time, after Gaggan achieved his ambition, he moved to pursue his engineering and I continued towards attaining the set goal.

I decided to prolong my preparation in 2001, but from KANPUR this time. I took coaching of PHYSICS, CHEMISTRY and MATHEMATICS from KAKADEO and started to lodge there on rent. This was very first time, when I was managing the things by my own without having anybody from family. Expenses got increased by many folds, mostly due to lodging and coaching fees. A number of new habits developed like watching first show of movies every Friday, going into RAVE3 MALL, being extravagant sometimes, etc. Situations around us mold our thoughts up-to some extent which may not be favorable, and possibly that is where I think, presence of family members restrict our diversions, but learning the art of being independent is also the crux of moving ahead in life because they may not be present each time to guide us. Perhaps, that is why it is often said "YOU HAVE ALL THE ANSWERS INSIDE YOU. THE MORE YOU TRUST YOURSELF, THE EASIER YOUR LIFE WILL FLOW".

It was the ONE DAY live match of INDIA vs ENGLAND in GREEN PARK STADIUM, KANPUR and I decided to watch the same with friends, being in long queue since 4 AM to buy tickets and then got the entry in stadium by 8 AM, first time seen the players so closely and the crowed amusing the moments of match. Some experiences become milestones and it feels like this is sometimes important to be a part of them.

This is often said that, "ALL IS WELL IF END IS WELL", I got considerably good rank in state engineering exam, received call for counselling and took admission in 2002 with ELECTRONICS & COMMUNICATIONS branch in MEERUT INSTITUTE OF ENGINEERING & TECHNOLOGY, MEERUT.

****<====Graduation in Engineering College====>****

Finally, the day came when I achieved the ambition I planned. After completing all formalities of admission in college, I started to stay in HOSTEL which was behind the college building at a walkable distance.

Patching up with the new environment was quite exciting, interaction with new colleagues of diverse cultures in class, a number of different groups of people with similar thoughts, relishing the sport tournaments organized in HOSTEL and COLLEGE, bumps of birthday celebration, eating in hostel mess, ragging of seniors, ceremony of FRESHER's PARTY, singing of hostel ANTHEMS😉, chatting on YAHOO MESSANGER😉, late night outing on RAANAAJI's DHABA to eat dinner, transporting with college bus to BEGHAM BRIDGE (Abu Lane), playing SNOOKER and POCKET TANKS games with friends, calling from PCO located at entry gate of hostel, being vigilant after visit of WARDEN at room, watching late night movies, and so on.

Being in habit of sitting at first/second bench in class, going in library to study, preparing for sessional exams, and keeping practical files up-to the mark, referring notes of ELECTRICAL ENGINEERING from SUNIL KUMAR GOEL SIR, constantly assembled in advance for MATHEMATICS from EKTA JAIN MAAM, presentation of logics of PHYSICS from BHASKAR SIR, VLSI concepts of ANU MAAM, and fabulous way of demonstrating CHEMISTRY from SANDEEP TOMAR SIR. This is a never ending list, and I am thankful to all of them who gave me the vision to shape my career ahead🙏. 

Solving questions of MATHEMATICS on MATRIX and struggling to pair for one of half hours in exam of three hours period, leaving the question and moving ahead to write and solve rest of the questions, picking the same question again at the end and solving in last few minutes, and then scoring 75%+ marks was one of the memorable moments which I wanted to highlight in this context.

Another interesting occurrence was the exam of DIGITAL COMMUNICATION paper, we prepared well, reached to allocated center, saw the headline of new paper that questions of the subject leaked, and hence the paper was cancelled. 

My internships include, 2 WEEKS of summer training in 2003 from ITI MANKAPUR, GONDA at the end of 1st year, 6 WEEKS of training of VHDL on MAY 2005 from LUCKNOW, and project on "32-BIT MICROPROCESSOR USING VHDL" in final year.

When it came to the placements, college management provided plenty of opportunities to participate in interviews of companies such as INFOSYS, BIRLASOFT, COGNIZENT and WIPRO but I could not qualify the campus placements due to being dropped either from aptitudes or group discussion level. I always believed in "SUCCESS IS NOT FINAL, FAILURE IS NOT FATAL: IT IS THE COURAGE TO CONTINUE THAT COUNTS".

It is often said that "LIFE IS PARTLY WHAT WE MAKE IT, AND PARTLY WHAT IT IS MADE BY THE FRIENDS WE CHOOSE". Friends always gave a caring shadow to one another, rarely called by name but abusing short forms😉, made one of the most memorable trips to JAIPUR with them, rejoiced loud music of HOLLYWOOD songs of SHAKIRA, MADONA, CELINE DION, BRAYAN ADAMS, etc in late night, not utilizing the gaps between exam papers but being solely dependent on last night preparation for exams and keep on gossiping, and making strategies to MASS BUNK the classes.

Now, the day of FAIRWELL came, and we were honored by our 3rd year juniors as a tradition. I was given the title of "LIFE IS A SIMPLE STRAIGHT LINE", we kept on writing in diaries of each other to preserve our beautiful memories of last 4 years which included the points analogous to thoughts, perceptions, and unforgettable moments we relished together. We gave a emotional see off, cuddled each other with happy tears in eyes, and wished for tremendous growth in future.

Those 4 YEARS were remained quite a remarkable in terms of being cool, calm, confident and managing the situations independently in tenures of bearing pressures of frequent sessional exams, practical, labs, internships, projects, preparing for company interviews, planning for post graduate degrees, etc. We conveyed our GOODBYE to COLLEGE & HOSTEL and moved towards accomplishing our next planned goal, which was TO BE EMPLOYED from off campus in my case.

****<====Job Search====>****

After completing graduation in 2006,  I relocated to INDIRA NAGAR, BANGLORE, stepped in towards accomplishment of new ambition. I recognized a particular pattern of thousands of graduates looking for job, wherein we had to make a group of people on SMS, and inform each other about the placement activities around the city if any, the only schedule from 7 AM to 9 PM was to run faster to appear in interviews. I took part in hundreds of placements, but no result. In the mean time, I got the opportunity to celebrate HOLI in BANGALORE with college friends and other job seekers. 

It was MAR 2007, I received a call from a ABHIMANYU SINGH SIR (immediate senior of MIET) saying to appear in OFF CAMPUS placement conducted by RCOM (Reliance Communications, Navi Mumbai). That was quite a tough decision, but at the same time I got a confirmation of job from ABHISHEK TIWARI (my room mate of MIET) for BHEL power plant (Akola District, Maharashtra). Now, I had a strong reason to become a part of all placement activities of RCOM, I went there and stayed to Abhimanyu Sir's flat. On MAR 30 2007, I appeared in written aptitude test, cleared the same, next day interviewed the HR round of discussion, and then came to know that result will be published after a week for selected candidates.

I joined BHEL plant, got a sharing room with ABHISHEK from company's side, and started working there. Over a period of days, I got to know about my compensation, job role and key responsibility areas, and realized that probably, this job was not something I planned for, but continued to look on better options considering "BEGGERS DONOT HAVE ANY CHOICE".

We used to go Akola preferably on weekends to surf internet and checking mails. It was APR 15 2007, when I received one email mentioning "CAN YOU PLEASE FILL THE ATTACHED FORM AND SHARE THE RESPECTIVE DOCUMENTS AT THE EARLIEST?", I didn't pay much attention assuming the inappropriate mails we used to receive regularly. And, again I received a reminder email on top of it after a week on APR 21 2007 while surfing my email box. This was a wakeup call for me, I went through the details of it, and then I comprehended that this email was from HR regarding confirmation of my candidature for interview I appeared for RCOM.

I gave a call to PANKAJ RATHOR (close friend of MIET) to get the assistance in filling the form and details of documents to be submitted. That was the moment when I felt so closely that "THERE IS A DIFFERENCE OF FRACTION OF SECONDS BETWEEN SUCCESS AND FAILURE". I was on the 7th sky that day as that seemed to be the end of hunting job and fulfilling the aspiration I desired, enlightened to MAA about the much awaited news of being successful,  informed to ABHISHEK about the milestone, and then to the supervisor next day to take an ADIEU.

I would like pay my special gratitude to MAA - for his outstanding courage to support morally and financially despite of being over occupied with existing other liabilities, FAMILY - to believe on my strengths, PANKAJ BHAIYA - to let me learn all aspects of handling the things independently and becoming witness of my 2 years stay in ALLAHABAD and during admission in MIET, ABHISHEK TIWARI - for recommending a much needed job in BHEL, being a motivated companion, and roomy in MIET and BHEL, ABHIMANYU SIR - for sketching a luck line of giving the break in RCOM and providing all arrangements of stay during interviews at his flat (GHANSOLI, NAVI MUMBAI), PANKAJ RATHOR and ARUP HALDER - being roomy during job search in BANGLORE, helped financially and assisted on all major aspects of placements😍. You all are the real HEROS of my life.

****<====Placement in RCOM====>****

I reported to HR on APR 30 2007 which was my date of joining in RCOM, participated in INDUCTION, we (30 lucky candidates) were asked to submit our original documents for verification, and got a stay of 3 weeks in guest house of SEA WOODS (NERUL NAVI MUMBAI). I took my very first flight on MAY 01 2007 when I flew for home to collect my documents, returned back to Mumbai, start following office schedule for working 24/7, and shifted to flat on rent in KOPERKHAIRANE (Navi Mumbai) after completing 3 weeks stay in guest house.


As per HR policy, we were promoted from GET to DEPUTY MANAGER after a year. Campus of DAKC was quite attracting and had many blocks of buildings where my seat was allocated in NOC, gratifying cafeterias, temple, and traffic rules were deployed inside campus. For the first few months, it looked quite fancy, and a dreamed place.

When it comes to travel, we explored a number of places such as ALIBAGH (MAR 14 2009), ELEPHANTA CAVE, HANGING GARDEN (JUL 22 2009), CHOKHI DHAADI (JAN 01 2009, Pune), SHANGRILA RESORT (Office Tour in JUL 22 2008), celebration of HOLI with friends, etc.


After working for 2 years, I felt to move ahead towards the next phase of life i.e. about planning of marriage which was commenced on DEC 02 2009. Till that point of time, I already learnt a number of progressive aspects of corporates, different domains and technologies. Hence, I planned to switch job, and started doing preparation accordingly. After going through multiple rounds of discussions and attempts, I got short listed for ERICSSON to join on APR 22 2010 but this time, MAMTA (Wife) became the witness of my all rounds of interviews held in GOREGAON (Mumbai) office of ERICSSON and proven a GOOD LUCK progressively. The day finally came to say GOOD BYE to MUMBAI on APR 19 2010 when we departed for NCR to join new organization.


So, this was the journey of my first 30 years, a small kid grew up to become an independent man, completed his education, employed, married, and then switched to a better job. I set my aspirations, did the preparation to achieve the goal without quitting, and kept on delivering my best consistently. At every stage of life, I faced a number challenges and hurdles but this is often said that "IMPOSSIBLE ITSELF SAYS I AM POSSIBLE", so never QUIT😎.

Sunday, September 20, 2020

First Blissful Decade of Marriage

****<====Overview of Ceremony====>****

A good marriage is at least 80 percent good luck in finding the right person at the right time. The rest is trust. Each couple has its own story of being married. Similar to it, I have my own.

We started to know each other through matrimonial portal, and then jumbled our families for next ceremonies of engagement and finally became married on DEC 02 2009. I have noted down below instances date-wise which really excites me.

May 07 2009 - Very first marriage invitation was exchanged through BharatMatrimony.com.

May 10 2009 - First meet with her parents at her sister's house in Nerul, Navi Mumbai.

Jun 13 2009 - Marriage clinched between the both families. She sent me the congratulation SMS.

Jun 25 2009 - Second meeting at Grih Pravesh of her Sister in Kamothe, Navi Mumbai. It was undoubtedly a fantabulous interaction and get-together with her family, friends & relatives. I felt quite delighted after I had a synergy with them. It was entirely a fabulous experience by meeting with a number of new faces in beginning of our association.

June 28 2009 - Exchange of Roses. The day was very special. It was heavily raining and we were deeply poured in water & looking for roses in Kamothe Market of Navi Mumbai. It was very first time when we were together in rain. 

July 16 2009 - Engagement Date. The Ring Ceremony was solemnized with the presence of my Maa, Brother, & her family in Mira Road, Navi Mumbai. The occasion will always be special & memorable for both of us. It gifted me a person which not only supported my life style but pushed me ahead for the balanced equilibrium between personal & professional lives.

July 26 2009 - Siddhivinayak & Mumba Devi Darshan together with both the families. It was an amazing and religious trip. Lastly, we went to Navi Nagar, Mumbai at her Maami’s House.

September 24 2009 - Our Tilak & Bariksha. I could not attend the ceremony because of not approving the leaves from Office. My presence was missed in occasion. 

December 02 2009 - Marriage Ceremony. After confronting multiple new considerations, we prepared our-self to be aligned with contemporary phase which was awaiting us. The happiest moment of our life finally came & the ceremony celebrated nicely in Musafirkhana, Uttar Pradesh. After all, God gifted me such a nice & supporting companion.

Starting from May 07 to December 01 2009, each moment was exhilarating and full of so many good experiences. Every time we remained together to arrange the Flat on rent, house hold accessories, prepared the Marriage card format, & given the order to print. She accompanied me during the shopping needed for ceremonies.

To summarize, marriage proposal initiated through matrimony website, proceeded with the very first interaction meet at her sister's house in Nerul Navi Mumbai, interaction between parents held through conference call, engagement commenced in Mira Road Mumbai at her Parents home in presence of my Maa & Brother and finally the marriage ceremony nicely commenced from my home town Pratapipur, Uttar Pradesh.

****<====Initial Days of Post Marriage====>****

Perhaps, this is how two discrete families of diverse thought processes collaborate and then accept each other's differentiation. After all ceremonies completed, we came back to Mumbai and settled in Khandeshwar.


Moving to Noida from Khandeshwar on APR 2010 after I switched my Job from Reliance Navi Mumbai to Ericsson Noida, was really exciting in terms of the fact that it was a progressive change but emotional as well because she was going away from her family first time. This was not at all easy for her to accept the reality, but she decided to start a new phase of her life at new place. We stayed in CABANA SUITE (Indirapuram, Ghaziabad) for first 2 weeks and then shifted to Shakti Khand-3 (Indirapuram, Ghaziabad) on rent.


****<====Childcare & Parenting====>****

Over a period of time, each couple wishes about having own child and hence we also thought of the same. We started following the plan, but sometimes things do not seem to be so easy as we think. We got stuck in major crisis of undesired situation when she had to go through a major surgery due to Ovarian Cyst. This was a steep turn around of our life, where she not only suffered with medical attentions, but we also realized how last three years changed our life drastically.


We did not loose our hope and kept our-self motivated, optimistic and religious when we decided to go VAISHNO DEVI DARSHAN in FEB 2015 to wish and pray about having baby, and then she conceived after a month. There are certain energies which force us to re-think about their existence and believe in days of technology and machines. On NOV 16 2015 we became three from two after going through so many highs and lows with multiple medical emergencies from the date of conception to delivery but this is often said "ALL IS WELL IF END IS WELL". We blessed with a baby boy who took birth in Bhakti Vendanta Hospital, Mira Road. I remember the day, when I was not able to manage intense emotions due to happy tears. I was employed in Noida and she was in Mumbai with her Parents who managed everything so amusingly that cannot be expressed in words. Perhaps, that is why "NOBODY ON EARTH CAN EVER LOVE YOU MORE THAN YOUR PARENTS".



****<====Collaboration & Adaptation of New Ways of Life====>****

She managed the things independently when I was onsite during Dec 20 2012 - Mar 09 2013 in CHADAug 23 2014 - Nov 10 2014 in MalaysiaSep 19 2014 - Sep 22 2014 in Indonesia and Jun 13 2016 - Jul 11 2016 in Turkey. I feel things never remained so easy during those days of our early married life, where to stay, how to live and manage the things with limited bugs in hand. She cried for me when got to know about extension of my stay in CHAD, managed the situation very well after missing her flight for Mumbai and collaborated well when she lived with my family for more than two weeks when I was in Malaysia, handled herself with four months kid in lap when I was in Turkey. Probably, this is how the foundation of every good relationship is built and matures even stronger with time.

She impressed with her commendable attributes which includes handling of Cheque Books and Demand Drafts, writing of application/letters, doing a reasonable debate with justified logics on common topics, vocalizing upfront, magnificent orchestration characteristics, being passionate about learning things related to teaching and a number of concepts related to grooming of kids, eager to read her favorite books such as "RAPIDEX" and "LADY YOU ARE THE BOSS", and discovering to evolve speaking skills of child.

Somebody has rightly said that "LIVE WITH NO EXCUSES AND TRAVEL WITH NO REGRETS". We together explored multiple good places of Agra, Mathura, Vrindaban, Fatehpur Sikri, Delhi, Mumbai and still many more to travel. Trip to Aksa Beach, Mumbai on DEC 02 2017 was one of the memorable as she is fond of looking too far by standing over sand with sea water touching at feet.


Before Marriage, she was working as an English Teacher in St Xavier's High School, Mira Road. She left her job after getting married, changed her surname, revamped herself as a house wife, and went away from her family. Being dependent is not at all a cake walk where you need to compromise with own desires for little and tiny things. Possibly, that is why it is often said "A WOMEN SACRIFICES HER DREAMS, HER DESIRES & HER DESTINY". 

Preparing food, washing utensils, dusting, laundering, taking care of kid, husband, family and keeping a 360 degree eye to maintain the things full-fledged. Sometimes, it felt 24 hours are quite less to manage the items despite of getting helping hands of maid. Thinking about freedom to full-fill dreams, travelling with friends to the places of own pick, buying dresses and ornaments of choice with ample bugs in hand, and sense of being sovereign to meet with friends and family as an when wished were seemed to be gradually disappeared. Conceivably, these are the boundaries which are typically defined for wives by male dominating Indian society and people living around it, but things are getting improved moderately and hoping for better outcomes in upcoming days. Perhaps, that is why "IN ENGLISH SHE IS KNOWN AS A "HOUSEWIFE"! IN ARABIC, SHE IS KNOWN AS "RABBAITUL BAIT" OR "THE QUEEN OF THE HOUSE"".

She always took a lesson from her past experiences, deep trust on AYURVED and HOMEOPATHY medications considering the facts of associated side effects, being consistent in doing PRANAYAM in  her day to day routine, religious in performing worship of SHIVA and SAAIJI🙏, periodic fasting, visiting TEMPLES, taking regular walks, considering human body as the basis of  everything and hence relying more on consumption of natural resources such as TURMERIC, AJWAIN, HONEY, BLACK PEPPER, GARLIC, and GINGER. She believes "PHYSICAL FITNESS IS THE FIRST REQUISITE OF HAPPINESS".

****<====Positive Aspects====>****

There is a theory of SCIENCE that, "NO TWO OBJECTS OF UNIVERSE ARE SIMILAR", hence the same is also applicable to humans. Two people of diverse background and culture, when start living together, gradually absorb the strengths of each other, and over a period of time they look like similar in their thought processes considering LEARNING as a constant exercise and hence, it is often said that "HUSBAND AND WIFE ARE COMPLEMENT OF EACH OTHER"💗😍.

Now, our son has turned 5 years old and we are happily living in our own home. This is truly said that "TIME AND TIDE WAITS FOR NONE". It is more than ten years for us to shift in NCR from Mumbai. We were never thought of moving here and being settled, but nobody knows what to happen and when. We celebrated a decade of our marriage on DEC 02 2019, and when we look back we realized to move so many miles ahead of life and still continuing to move further😊😘.


Saturday, September 19, 2020

First Five Years of Child

****<====Blessing us with Your Birth====>****

On NOV 16 2015, you took birth and blessed us with your presence. We sensed the hundreds of reasons of gigantic joys to see your tiny hands, adorable and decent face. Probably, that is why it is often said that "WORDS CAN NOT EXPRESS THE JOY OF A NEW LIFE.😍"

This actually envisaged us, how we grew up by learning about knowing the things from scratch. Spreading inclination with deciduous teeth of your innocent smile in lap, rolling over, three point crawling, taking first step, start walking and then running. Speaking very first word, start recognizing parents, and learning about objects.

****<====First Birthday Celebration====>****

We were quite excited to celebrate your first birthday and making this memorable, and then organized the same to BLUE PEARL BANQUET HALL (Indirapuram, Ghaziabad).

 

Below is the invitation card designed by your father for YOU:

****<====Lovable of All====>****

You are always adorable for all, and one of the main reason of their smile😘.

****<====Tonsuring Ceremony====>****

Your TONSURING CEREMONY was commenced on APR 29 2018 at SAAKHVEER (a Village nearby home town PRATAPIPUR, Ambedkar Nagar District, Uttar Pradesh), CHAUKIYA & VINDHYACHAL as per family tradition.

****<====Pre Schooling====>****

On JUL 02 2018, you started your PRE SCHOOLING in KIDZEE (Shastri Nagar, Ghaziabad), and then proceeded towards a new phase of your EDUCATION. There you got a number of your friends to relish with, and participated in events and activities as a part of regular curriculum.

****<====Learning Cycles & Activities====>****

Painting walls and floor with your free hand drawings, jumping over sofas and tables, stacking blocks, insisting to eat french fries, noodles and chocolates, being passionate about watching and performing dance, Masha and Bear and Peppa Pig on TV, learning hindi varnmala, english alphabets, colors, shapes, counting, single words and then writing them over walls, speaking hindi and english rhymes, sanskrit shlokas, and being enthusiastic in reading school books from start to end.


Curious about being captured in photograph, running fast to pickup mobile/phone calls, walking up and down stairs multiple times throughout a day, being eager to press zero/minus one button of lift and then counting the display, riding bicycle, enjoying water pools, splashing in mud puddles, fearless high sliding in Play Area, and enjoying to play with sands on sea shore.

****<====Playing with Siblings, Friends & Pets====>****

You loved playing in floor corridor with your neighborhood friends, cherished moments with Shubhu and Tejas Bhaiya, relished riding on car, and shown your gallant delight with PETS.

****<====Growing to Become an Integral Part of Society====>****

We felt high to see you growing everyday and surprising us with your acquirement. Perhaps, this is how each child grows and becomes integral part of the family and then gradually of the society. Son/Daughter of a parent has now become a parent. Your companionship has always given us the immense joys of parenthood that cannot be expressed in words. Somebody has right said that "WE NEVER KNOW THE LOVE OF A PARENT UNTIL WE BECOME PARENTS OURSELVES". We are blessed to celebrate your 5th birthday on NOV 16 2020😘😍.


First Three Decades of Men

****<====Early Life====>**** It was the year 1985 when MAA decided to pursue her career as an independent women after four years of ...