****<====Overview of Ceremony====>****
A good marriage is at least 80 percent good luck in finding the right person at the right time. The rest is trust. Each couple has its own story of being married. Similar to it, I have my own.
We started to know each other through matrimonial portal, and then jumbled our families for next ceremonies of engagement and finally became married on DEC 02 2009. I have noted down below instances date-wise which really excites me.
May 07 2009 - Very first marriage invitation was exchanged through BharatMatrimony.com.
May 10 2009 - First meet with her parents at her sister's house in Nerul, Navi Mumbai.
Jun 13 2009 - Marriage clinched between the both families. She sent me the congratulation SMS.
Jun 25 2009 - Second meeting at Grih Pravesh of her Sister in Kamothe, Navi Mumbai. It was undoubtedly a fantabulous interaction and get-together with her family, friends & relatives. I felt quite delighted after I had a synergy with them. It was entirely a fabulous experience by meeting with a number of new faces in beginning of our association.
June 28 2009 - Exchange of Roses. The day was very special. It was heavily raining and we were deeply poured in water & looking for roses in Kamothe Market of Navi Mumbai. It was very first time when we were together in rain.
July 16 2009 - Engagement Date. The Ring Ceremony was solemnized with the presence of my Maa, Brother, & her family in Mira Road, Navi Mumbai. The occasion will always be special & memorable for both of us. It gifted me a person which not only supported my life style but pushed me ahead for the balanced equilibrium between personal & professional lives.
July 26 2009 - Siddhivinayak & Mumba Devi Darshan together with both the families. It was an amazing and religious trip. Lastly, we went to Navi Nagar, Mumbai at her Maami’s House.
September 24 2009 - Our Tilak & Bariksha. I could not attend the ceremony because of not approving the leaves from Office. My presence was missed in occasion.
December 02 2009 - Marriage Ceremony. After confronting multiple new considerations, we prepared our-self to be aligned with contemporary phase which was awaiting us. The happiest moment of our life finally came & the ceremony celebrated nicely in Musafirkhana, Uttar Pradesh. After all, God gifted me such a nice & supporting companion.
Starting from May 07 to December 01 2009, each moment was exhilarating and full of so many good experiences. Every time we remained together to arrange the Flat on rent, house hold accessories, prepared the Marriage card format, & given the order to print. She accompanied me during the shopping needed for ceremonies.
To summarize, marriage proposal initiated through matrimony website, proceeded with the very first interaction meet at her sister's house in Nerul Navi Mumbai, interaction between parents held through conference call, engagement commenced in Mira Road Mumbai at her Parents home in presence of my Maa & Brother and finally the marriage ceremony nicely commenced from my home town Pratapipur, Uttar Pradesh.
****<====Initial Days of Post Marriage====>****
Perhaps, this is how two discrete families of diverse thought processes collaborate and then accept each other's differentiation. After all ceremonies completed, we came back to Mumbai and settled in Khandeshwar.
Moving to Noida from Khandeshwar on APR 2010 after I switched my Job from Reliance Navi Mumbai to Ericsson Noida, was really exciting in terms of the fact that it was a progressive change but emotional as well because she was going away from her family first time. This was not at all easy for her to accept the reality, but she decided to start a new phase of her life at new place. We stayed in CABANA SUITE (Indirapuram, Ghaziabad) for first 2 weeks and then shifted to Shakti Khand-3 (Indirapuram, Ghaziabad) on rent.
****<====Childcare & Parenting====>****
Over a period of time, each couple wishes about having own child and hence we also thought of the same. We started following the plan, but sometimes things do not seem to be so easy as we think. We got stuck in major crisis of undesired situation when she had to go through a major surgery due to Ovarian Cyst. This was a steep turn around of our life, where she not only suffered with medical attentions, but we also realized how last three years changed our life drastically.
We did not loose our hope and kept our-self motivated, optimistic and religious when we decided to go VAISHNO DEVI DARSHAN in FEB 2015 to wish and pray about having baby, and then she conceived after a month. There are certain energies which force us to re-think about their existence and believe in days of technology and machines. On NOV 16 2015 we became three from two after going through so many highs and lows with multiple medical emergencies from the date of conception to delivery but this is often said "ALL IS WELL IF END IS WELL". We blessed with a baby boy who took birth in Bhakti Vendanta Hospital, Mira Road. I remember the day, when I was not able to manage intense emotions due to happy tears. I was employed in Noida and she was in Mumbai with her Parents who managed everything so amusingly that cannot be expressed in words. Perhaps, that is why "NOBODY ON EARTH CAN EVER LOVE YOU MORE THAN YOUR PARENTS".
****<====Collaboration & Adaptation of New Ways of Life====>****
She managed the things independently when I was onsite during Dec 20 2012 - Mar 09 2013 in CHAD, Aug 23 2014 - Nov 10 2014 in Malaysia, Sep 19 2014 - Sep 22 2014 in Indonesia and Jun 13 2016 - Jul 11 2016 in Turkey. I feel things never remained so easy during those days of our early married life, where to stay, how to live and manage the things with limited bugs in hand. She cried for me when got to know about extension of my stay in CHAD, managed the situation very well after missing her flight for Mumbai and collaborated well when she lived with my family for more than two weeks when I was in Malaysia, handled herself with four months kid in lap when I was in Turkey. Probably, this is how the foundation of every good relationship is built and matures even stronger with time.
She impressed with her commendable attributes which includes handling of Cheque Books and Demand Drafts, writing of application/letters, doing a reasonable debate with justified logics on common topics, vocalizing upfront, magnificent orchestration characteristics, being passionate about learning things related to teaching and a number of concepts related to grooming of kids, eager to read her favorite books such as "RAPIDEX" and "LADY YOU ARE THE BOSS", and discovering to evolve speaking skills of child.
Somebody has rightly said that "LIVE WITH NO EXCUSES AND TRAVEL WITH NO REGRETS". We together explored multiple good places of Agra, Mathura, Vrindaban, Fatehpur Sikri, Delhi, Mumbai and still many more to travel. Trip to Aksa Beach, Mumbai on DEC 02 2017 was one of the memorable as she is fond of looking too far by standing over sand with sea water touching at feet.
Before Marriage, she was working as an English Teacher in St Xavier's High School, Mira Road. She left her job after getting married, changed her surname, revamped herself as a house wife, and went away from her family. Being dependent is not at all a cake walk where you need to compromise with own desires for little and tiny things. Possibly, that is why it is often said "A WOMEN SACRIFICES HER DREAMS, HER DESIRES & HER DESTINY".
Preparing food, washing utensils, dusting, laundering, taking care of kid, husband, family and keeping a 360 degree eye to maintain the things full-fledged. Sometimes, it felt 24 hours are quite less to manage the items despite of getting helping hands of maid. Thinking about freedom to full-fill dreams, travelling with friends to the places of own pick, buying dresses and ornaments of choice with ample bugs in hand, and sense of being sovereign to meet with friends and family as an when wished were seemed to be gradually disappeared. Conceivably, these are the boundaries which are typically defined for wives by male dominating Indian society and people living around it, but things are getting improved moderately and hoping for better outcomes in upcoming days. Perhaps, that is why "IN ENGLISH SHE IS KNOWN AS A "HOUSEWIFE"! IN ARABIC, SHE IS KNOWN AS "RABBAITUL BAIT" OR "THE QUEEN OF THE HOUSE"".
She always took a lesson from her past experiences, deep trust on AYURVED and HOMEOPATHY medications considering the facts of associated side effects, being consistent in doing PRANAYAM in her day to day routine, religious in performing worship of SHIVA and SAAIJI🙏, periodic fasting, visiting TEMPLES, taking regular walks, considering human body as the basis of everything and hence relying more on consumption of natural resources such as TURMERIC, AJWAIN, HONEY, BLACK PEPPER, GARLIC, and GINGER. She believes "PHYSICAL FITNESS IS THE FIRST REQUISITE OF HAPPINESS".
****<====Positive Aspects====>****
There is a theory of SCIENCE that, "NO TWO OBJECTS OF UNIVERSE ARE SIMILAR", hence the same is also applicable to humans. Two people of diverse background and culture, when start living together, gradually absorb the strengths of each other, and over a period of time they look like similar in their thought processes considering LEARNING as a constant exercise and hence, it is often said that "HUSBAND AND WIFE ARE COMPLEMENT OF EACH OTHER"💗😍.
Now, our son has turned 5 years old and we are happily living in our own home. This is truly said that "TIME AND TIDE WAITS FOR NONE". It is more than ten years for us to shift in NCR from Mumbai. We were never thought of moving here and being settled, but nobody knows what to happen and when. We celebrated a decade of our marriage on DEC 02 2019, and when we look back we realized to move so many miles ahead of life and still continuing to move further😊😘.
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